You what grinds my gears?

Married people that go to individual therapists. They would rather pay someone to listen to all their secrets and trauma than tell the person that is supposedly the other half of their life. You don’t keep secrets from your spouse that will only lead to more trauma and drama that you don’t need and only have to cause you more pain and bills that probably lead to your secrets in the first place. If you have an issue with your spouse you should have tried to clear it up with them before you ever said yes to them.